Friday, January 21, 2011

The F Word

Just BE.  How often have you seen, read and/or heard this two-word phrase?  I understood the concept fairly readily.  However, putting it into practice continues to be quite the challenge for me.  Just BE in the moment, in the now; immersed in and fully focused on the task at hand, rather than dwelling on the past or the future while each fleeting NOW passes us by, never to be experienced again.  The incessant, runaway "chatter" of the mind -- if I could reign it in, master it, hold in check, use it as a tool rather than being used BY it, then... then peace would be mine, no matter what's happening around me.  Oh how lovely that sounds!

The way I understand this is not so much to STOP thinking altogether; rather, it's about focusing our energies on positive thinking, finding thoughts that align and agree with how we wish to shape our lives, rather than wasting time on worry, regret, shame, guilt, and that four-letter F word . . . F-E-A-R.

It's truly amazing when I look back on my life thus far and see just how much of it I've lived in the F word.  Not only had I lived in it, with it, but I also devot[ed] much time in attempts to escape it.  Wow.  And all because of the way I cho[o]se to perceive things around me.  I mean, I'm still here, alive and kickin'.  That's gotta mean something, right?  Uh huh, it means that my fears are all a product of my thinking, my perception, and once a fear is conquered, does our perception not change, usually for the better?

Now, this isn't to say that we all need to go around being absolutely fearless.  Nah, it's more along the lines of the following words by one lady I very much admire, none other than Jillian Michaels:

"There's so much propaganda out there touting fearlessness. It sounds cool doesn't it, conjuring images of humans defying the laws of nature. Well, you can forget it. Fear is experienced by ALL God's creatures. The trick is not escaping your fear, but confronting it & allowing it to drive & teach you. Only by getting to the bottom of your fears can you find their valuable lessons & move forward stronger than before."

In essence, we needn't avoid or escape the dreaded F word, or pretend to be fearless.  Instead, for a more peaceful, positive, stronger, more confident NOW, and in order for us to "Just BE", we are better served when we can bring ourselves to confront, face, deal with and conquer our fears as they arise.

As I'm fully aware of how fear affects my life to a greater or lesser degree each day, stay tuned to this blog if you're interested in sharing this F-word-conquering journey with me.  The plan is to occasionally share my struggles and triumphs with you, my dear readers, and possibly to do what I can to help you conquer your own F word.

Good day and namaste!


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